If you care about this guy or maybe see some potential, you – yes you – can make his divorce a lot longer, more painful, and a lot more expensive.
Go to any party you're invited to, join clubs with people who do what you like to do, volunteer, get involved socially. As a dating coach, I know that people resist it because they're scared to try something so unfamiliar to them.I had taken (some) time to heal the best way one ever can and gain perspective first. But before you proceed, you’d better make sure that the end of the marriage is simply a signature away and nothing less. He needs time to address why his marriage ended, come to terms with his own culpability, help any children he has to come to terms with the end of his marriage, and to reconfigure his life. You may have been in a sad and lonely marriage and you are ready for your next step. And before you start dating, develop some boundaries for yourself. Seriously, if you meet a guy who has just split from his wife you really have to wonder about his emotional maturity and character. He has no business jumping into a relationship with you or anyone else and, if you proceed knowing full well his history, shame on you. Every day I get emails from women who want one-on-one dating coaching but don’t want to try online dating.Rather than dip your toe in the water and give up because you’re intimidated, I highly encourage you to check out Finding the One Online, in which I hold your hand through the entire online dating process, from getting over your fears, to choosing a website, to writing a profile, to flirting with men and so on.